After 21 years of wedded bliss I have just now quantified behavior that has caused…let’s just say friction over many of those otherwise perfect years.
When approaching an expensive or important project…oh, something like buying a sailing yacht, my method is to research without regard to cost or practicalities to gather a large field of possibilities. I find stuff I like, stuff I don’t, giving different weight to things of importance, deal breakers, all with as open a mind as I can muster. Slowly I filter through the field and find the candidates. I check them out. My mind focuses and I begin to close in on the winner. It then becomes a game of price vs condition vs availability.
My mind closes down to focus on what I consider the best choice. Graphically it would look like a funnel, wide at the top and tiny at the bottom.
Marce has a different method. Let’s call it the ever Expanding, ever Evolving, ever Opening-up theory of selection. EEO.
Now, dear reader, we all know she could explain EEO better than I but wouldn’t it be better to gain insight by my trying to put it into words? Well, it starts with years of surreptitious gleaning of information about the project, a timely, “wouldn’t it be if” and, “look at how nice this is.” Now I’m interested, she can be very compelling. We begin. It’s usually something I can wrap my brain around and in short order “it” begins to grow. I suppose that’s normal. As the list expands, and I can no longer wrap my brain around all the contenders, I’m told to “stay open minded.” Now priorities change, I call this the “field shift.” Galley up, galley down kind of thing. Saying, “but Marce, didn’t you like that last one?” runs counter to the EEO philosophy and one might be less than open minded!
So, her funnel is inverted. Tiny at the top, wide at the bottom. She is a force of Nature and I wouldn’t have it any other way, but pray for us just the same.
Open minded in St. Augustine.